What you SHOULD be doing.

I feel the need to write about this because for all the short while that I have lived on this planet, I’ve noticed things growing and subsiding from time to time, including both the good and the bad. What I cannot come to terms with in the generality of the monologue that is to come live here, is how people let things as important as mental peace and self respect go for a chaotic spin and get away by saying, “f*** it!”.

Patriarchy took its course a long time ago and it sustains itself rigorously today feeding off of a lot of things, including women accepting inferiority from men who delusionally believe themselves any better. Think of any kind of crime, think of any crime that has ever been committed, all go back to one common devil-zone, all go back to the idea of power- one above all others. That is what we define as patriarchy and it is the most gender-neutral thing (less known in this manner), all things under patriarchy that believe in equality become victims of it.

I see many billboards, magazines and media (social and political) all emphasising on women’s empowerment, involvement and sentimental-divine motherhood nature of women that need to be respected; but I also see women looking away when a man suggestively scratches his nuts watching her walk by, I also notice how women smoking look busily over to anywhere away from the men looking at her like she’s standing naked, I also see women telling other women that it’ll all pass and that “men will be men”, I cannot fathom how much I pity women that continue to be submissive to their inhumane husbands; switch the above genders in the same situations and patriarchy is still the same. Patriarchy ruins man and woman, both; anything fragile, humble, decent, beautiful, kind, gentle, in fact anything feminine is victim to patriarchy.

This patriarchy is a social construction and phases of history constantly change, so patriarchy too will pass us through in good time, but it is, however, quite alive this very moment and I don’t know if we do enough to not let it affect us.

I want women and men to know their human and citizenship rights so well that they could have enough faith and confidence in themselves to rise above power tensions. I want women to stop complaining about the things that are wrong and finally take a fully charged action against it. I want to compel radical feminists to include men too as victims of patriarchy. I want to not just disregard but abolish inequality in each little aspect of life and the senseless gender roles that go with it.

We don’t have to feel this suffocated , we don’t need to accept anything disrespectful. I urge people to stand against elements like patriarchy and understand feminism for what it is- equality, I urge people who feel helpless to come together and courageously develop a stance. Your government and its policies and the constitution it follows is of no help and use to you if you remain victimised by it all and remain silent. You have a right, you have rights to live a dignified life, your country gives it to you against all biases, use them!

To all the women that use their womanhood to embarrass decent men and threaten them, don’t expect equality only when you need the women’s reserved bus seat empty; to all the men that are so proud to be ‘mard‘, that they do others a favour by just existing, try being the mard by helping your wife or mother or sister since you can ‘take on the world better’ and I dare you to dare your mard-ness to something feminine.

This is to the taxi driver that said he didn’t argue out of embarrassment with the woman who tricked him with money because she screamed and grabbed attention from others, this is for the girl that asked an old man to vacate the ladies seat cause her 20-something limbs were simply tired, this is for the woman at the bar that got herself drunk so she could find the courage to tell her best friend how she was raped by her uncle, this is for the man living in front of my window that gets beaten up by his wife, this is for the women that take it all in so their children never know their ill-fated apathy, this is to my anxious-scared self when asking that man “What are you looking at?!”, this is for the policeman that ‘morally corrected’ me for wearing ripped jeans, this is for everyone who is ashamed of being anything feminine because it is considered to be unworthy. Don’t quite down, don’t turn your face away, don’t be afraid, have courage to speak what itches your calm-self, just begin to breathe with pride and demand for that fair chance.

This is my own clear, utterly honest, with all feminine-pride, a standing against anything that protects patriarchy and denies equality; and you should be doing this too. Practice feminism, it uplifts everyone.